Not only do relatives of Pakistani detainees contend with financial woes and the sorrow of their relatives’ detention, but they feel as if their government and their communities have turned their back on them. Nargis, whose husband Maqsood has been in detention since 2010, is ostracized by her community. Deprived of her marital home by her husband’s detention, she has been forced to move in with her brother. For a married woman in rural Punjab, her circumstance is considered socially and culturally unacceptable: My community has turned its back on me. It is severely frowned upon that I am living with my brother. As a married woman I must live with my husband, not my own family. I am a burden on him. It is a very difficult situation for me. How can I live like this? 88 Other families lament the stigma attached to having a family member in detention. Because of his brother Ibrahim’s detention, Imran and his family feel they are considered terrorists by his community and the government. “We are Pakistani, we live in Pakistan.” Imran explains, “But because of my brother’s detention all people see us as are terrorists. We need to do away with this negative image that the government and our community have of us.” 89 Instead of reaching out and providing families of detainees with assistance, Pakistani government officials view some families with mistrust, subjecting them to investigations and harassment. Bahadur Khan is a government school teacher in Khyber Agency, FATA. His younger brother, Murtaza, has been held at the DFIP since 2005. After his brother’s detention, his family was summoned by the Political Agent—a representative of the central government in FATA. Bahadur, his family and his neighbors were all investigated and questioned by Pakistani intelligence officers: The intelligence agencies started knocking on our door and asking questions to our friends and neighbors. Our community replied that our family would rather put pens than guns in people’s hands. This was two months after my brother’s capture. It continued for six or seven months. 90 Gul Muhammad, a former Pakistan army officer, was targeted for speaking of his son Kaleem’s detention at a press conference organized in support of victims of enforced disappearances in Pakistan. “I get harassed sometimes by [intelligence] agencies,” he claims. “They called me on my phone two or three times. They asked me who I am, where my son is. They ask me if I have ever spoken ill of Pakistan. I told them: why would I do that? Pakistan is my country.” 91 c) Kept in the Dark Individuals detained at the DFIP often simply disappeared while travelling or working abroad, with their families having no idea what happened to them. All families interviewed have gone months, sometimes up to a year before discovering that they are still alive and are being detained by the 88 Justice Project Pakistan interview with Nargis, November 2012 (real name, location withheld). Justice Project Pakistan interview with Imran, April 2013 (real name, location withheld). 90 Justice Project Pakistan interview with Bahadur Khan, April 2013 (real name, location withheld). 91 Justice Project Pakistan interview with Gul Muhammad, December 2012 (real name, location withheld). 89 26